“As someone who has always struggled with people pleasing, The Let Them Theory felt like a wake-up call – in the best possible way. I’ve spent most of my life trying to keep everyone around me happy, often at the expense of my own peace. I worry when people are upset with me. I overanalyse their reactions, take things personally, and let the behaviour of others dictate my emotional state. Reading this book helped me realise just how exhausting and unnecessary that way of living is.

At first, I was skeptical. Could two little words – let them – really make a difference? It almost felt too simple to be true. But as I kept reading, it clicked. I actually laughed at myself because I saw how much power I had been giving away – letting other people’s choices, moods, and opinions affect how I saw myself or how I felt each day. This book gave me permission to stop – to step back, take a breath, and realise that not everything needs my reaction.

One quote that really stood out to me was:

“If someone doesn’t like you… let them. If they want to judge you… let them. If they do something you don’t like… let them. If they make a decision you don’t agree with… let them.”

It seems so obvious when you read it – but that’s part of the brilliance. It reminded me that we don’t need to control or fix everything. We don’t need to chase people’s approval or explain ourselves over and over. Other people are going to do what they’re going to do – and that doesn’t have to steal my peace.

What I really appreciated about the book is that it doesn’t just repeat the same message over and over. Mel Robbins breaks it down in a direct, honest, and inspiring way. Her writing is conversational and accessible – it feels like she’s speaking right to you. And the book is short, which I actually loved. It gets straight to the point and leaves you with something that sticks.

My biggest takeaway was this: In a world where we’re constantly connected, constantly comparing, and constantly reacting to what everyone else is doing, it’s easy to forget that we have the power to not react. We can let people be who they are. And we can choose to focus on ourselves – on our own growth, joy, and peace.

Since finishing the book, I’ve already noticed changes in how I respond to situations. When someone says or does something that would normally trigger me, I pause. I remind myself: let them. And just like that, the tension eases. I’m so excited to keep applying this mindset, because I can already feel the difference it’s making.

I would absolutely recommend this book to anyone who struggles with people pleasing, perfectionism, or overthinking. If you feel drained by trying to manage other people’s emotions or constantly worry what others think of you – this book is for you. It’s a gentle but powerful reminder that the only approval you really need is your own.

The Let Them Theory might be a quick read, but it’s one that can shift your perspective in lasting ways.”

👉 You can get your copy from Wordsworth Books here:
https://www.wordsworth.co.za/products/the-let-them-theory-hardcover